Marriage is not only a union of two people, but it is the union of two families for the lifetime. And this union happens through two people, the bride, and groom. When a couple gets married, they actually step forward to build a family. So, it is important that those two people should know each other well. Undeniably, knowing each other in few meetings is not possible; however, two people can understand each other’s perspectives to a little extent. And the best way to do so is by asking questions to your future partner. Here is the list of 46 questions that you can consider asking the girl during your first meeting.
Things to ask a girl in the first meeting for an arranged marriage
Q. 1. Are you ready for marriage, or are you secretly being forced into it?
First things first, it is important to know that the girl is ready for the marriage and not forced by anyone. Mostly in India, a girl is pressurized for marriage as soon as she becomes 24–25 years. Sometimes girls want to pursue higher studies, or they might be involved in a relationship or haven’t yet got-over-her-ex phase or anything for that matter which could make her unsure about marriage. The answer to this question will help you understand whether she is ready for marriage or nor. Make sure you have a detailed discussion on it.
Q. 2. How would you like your partner-to-be like?
Another most important question that you should ask is this. It is a fundamental question that will allow you to have an idea about the qualities that she foresees in her partner. This question will enable you to know whether the girl has some reasonable expectations from a partner or not. Girls who have unreal expectations from their future husbands can create unwanted situations tomorrow. Also, through this, you can get a glimpse of all the qualities that you possess and the one that you don’t. That is why it is essential to ask this question.
Q. 3. What are your views about arranged marriage?
Some girls actually don’t believe in arranged marriages; they are however, forced for that. Hence, it is important that you know the girl’s view on it. She may probably be interested in love marriage, which can cause disputes later. There is no point in that.
Q. 4. Do you prefer us to stay with the family or separately?
For the guys who stay with their parents, this question is extensively important. Especially the guys who live and love their parents and do not want to abandon them should ask this question to the girl beforehand. Asking this question will help you avoid any clashes in the future.
Q. 5. Are you vegetarian, non-vegetarian, or eggetarian?
Knowing each other’s eating choices is important. You may be non-vegetarian, but the girl you are meeting is pure veg, and she may have difficulty handling your eating choices. Asking this question will allow you to understand whether the girl is okay with all choices or not. Or there is a possibility that the girl is non-vegetarian and you belong to a pure vegetarian family. Not asking beforehand can create chaos later, so it’s better to ask this before getting hitched.
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Q. 6. How is your relationship with your parents?
Know that the girls who know the importance of family build a beautiful family. If the relationship with the girl and her parents are not so good, then it may affect your married life as well. Knowing this will help you have a better understanding of the girl.
Q. 7. What are your hobbies? What do you like to do in your free time?
This is another basic question that will help you know what kind of person she is. Also, you will know the similarities and dissimilarities you both possess. Of course, not all your character traits, interests, hobbies will match, but it is essential to have a few things in common to bond well. So this question will help you to know that.
Q. 8. What do you think about religion and faith?
This is something that varies from person to person. However, you must know about the girl’s understanding of religion and faith so that there are no conflicts tomorrow.
Q. 9. Are you an extrovert or introvert?
Extreme of everything is bad; hence, it is essential that you know whether the girl is an extrovert or introvert. You may probably want to marry an extrovert girl as the circle you live in is such. Or you may be very social and would want to marry a person who is also social. It is said that opposites attract, but having only opposites can create disputes in the future.
Q. 10. Do you have any physical disability, ailment, or medical condition?
This is one of the most important questions that you should ask your would-be-wife. Ask this question very politely so that you are not hurting the girl. Also, if by chance you have any medical condition, make sure you tell her beforehand. Both of you can even undergo a medical examination before marriage to avoid any doubts.
Q. 11. Your future plans with respect to your job?
If you are one of those who prefer working women, then you should definitely ask her future plans for her job. This will help you have insight into her confidence levels.
Q. 12. How had the process been for you so far?
You will get to know how she is taking the whole process. Also, it is a great question to start the conversation and take it further.
Q. 13. How would you want your wedding to be like?
This is one of the most critical questions. You may probably be planning to have a simple wedding, while the girl would want to host a grand celebration. Asking her this will give you clarity about her plans regarding her wedding celebration.
Q. 14. What kind of person are you traditional or modern or a mix of both?
It is always good to ask this question so that you can understand the kind of lifestyle she likes. Also, living with like-minded people makes things easier and better.
Q. 15. What are your interests?
Ask her interests; you may find some commonalities, which will make your life worth it. Of course, if both of you are avid readers, reading will become a fun activity for you. Also, you would be able to talk on some common subjects.
Q. 16. Describe your perfect day.
Another basic yet most important question is this. It will help you know her as a person well.
Q. 17. Would you like to continue working after marriage? What are your career goals?
Whether you are a person who wants a working partner or vice versa, this question is essential. Answer to this question will eliminate any kind of doubts that may arise in the future. You may want a working wife, and the girl you’re meeting may want to be a housewife, not knowing each other’s preference before marriage can create trouble later.
Q. 18. What are your educational goals?
Ask this if you are meeting a girl who is still pursuing her higher studies. It will give you an insight into her future plans.
Q. 19. What qualities do you value about yourself the most?
Each person has some exceptional qualities; you must ask this question. The answer to this question will let you know whether the girl is positive about herself or not. The one who is cynical about her own self will never be able to think positively about others.
Q. 20. How many kids would you want to have?
Most girls these days do not want to have kids. They want to grow and become successful in their career. If you want to have kids and the girl you are meeting do not like kids, then there is no point in taking things further. Clarity is essential, no matter what.
Q. 21. How do you tackle conflict or fights when they come up?
Answer to this question will help you know whether the girl has temperamental issues or not. Of course, this life is full of problems; conflicts can arise at any time. One who knows how to handle disputes knows how to lead life peacefully.
Q. 22. How is your relationship with your siblings?
If the girl has siblings, then asking this question is worth it. The kind of relationship she shares with her family, the same sort of relationship she is going to have with your family in the future.
Q. 23. What qualities do you value most in other people?
Ask this question to know whether you possess all or some of these qualities or not.
Q. 24. Tell me about the most memorable experience that you’ve had in your life.
Ask this so that you can know about her life. Also, it will help you know how she cherishes all those experiences in life.
Q. 25. Who do you miss the most in your life?
Another important question that will enable you to understand the mindset of the girl.
Q. 26. What kind of music do you like?
Questions like such should definitely be asked. Firstly, they keep the conversation light. Also, you will know if you, too, have the same likings.
Q. 27. What was the most painful event in your life that you’ve had to deal with?
It will help you know if she still has some scars of that past event or she is strong enough to move on. Of course, if a person is always whining about the bad past can never be happy in any situation.
Q. 28. The greatest struggle that you’ve faced, and how did you overcome it?
By asking this question, you will know how strong the girl is. The answer to this question will show you the kind of person she is.
Q. 29. Your favorite cuisine?
It is essential to know each other’s likings and disliking.
Q. 30. Do you like cooking?
If you are a foodie, and you love food more than anything, then do ask this question. A foodie person would always want to have a wife who can cook well.
Q. 31. Who inspires you the most?
Know if she gets inspired by anyone or not.
Q. 32. Do you love pets? Which pet you love the most, a dog or cat?
If you love pets and have one or more pets at home, then do not miss to ask this question. Some girls do not gel up really well with pets. If the girl also doesn’t like pets, then it can create a problem for you later.
Q. 33. Where would you want to travel to?
Deciding your honeymoon location will become more comfortable for you. So do ask this question.
Q. 34. What do you do to chill out?
Asking this question will give you an idea about her favorite activities. You never know you may have one or two in common.
Q. 35. What do you do to deal with setbacks and disappointments in your life?
You will know whether she takes unwanted events of life positively or negatively.
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Q. 36. How would you want us to divide household responsibilities?
Ask this in advance so that you do not end up having surprises in life.
Q. 37. Do you do any kind of financial investment?
If you are meeting a working woman, then this question is a must ask. The answer to this question will tell you how she deals with her money. Also, you will know whether she is smart and knows ways on how to increase wealth. Whether she invests in Fixed Deposits or Mutual Funds or Real Estate or in any other scheme, it is a plus for you. Besides, you will know that the girl can create wealth. Also, don’t miss to tell her about the investments that you do. And if you don’t invest, then start investing now.
Q. 38. What are your goals in life?
Know her perspective on life with the help of this question. You may be looking for a person with big goals, and not necessarily the girl has any. Asking this will help you have clarity.
Q. 39. Do you like reading? If yes, who is your favorite author, or what kind of books you love to read?
If you love reading and you want to have a partner with a similar kind of interest, then ask this question. The kind of stuff one reads determines the mindset of a person. You will also know the same.
Q. 40. How do you describe your life?
Another critical question is this. You will know her outlook towards her life.
Q. 41. What is the idea of the perfect date for you?
You will get the idea of her perfect date, and accordingly, you can plan a date with her in the future. A win-win situation for both of you ☺ ☺
Q. 42. What led you to choose the profession you’ve chosen?
If the girl is in some bizarre profession, according to you, then ask her this question. However, this question can be asked otherwise also, even in the usual professions.
Q. 43. Where do you see yourself five years down the line?
This only question will tell you her future plans and how does she want to lead her life.
Q. 44. Is separation or divorce normal for you?
You may want to know if she has genuine logic to supports her stand on this. You will know whether you have the same thinking about the divorce or you think differently.
Q. 45. Do you drink alcohol or like smoking?
If you don’t drink and don’t like girls drinking, then ask this beforehand. Things like that create troubles later, there is no point in having a troublesome life together. Also, if you drink alcohol or smoke, then tell her about it before marriage.
Q. 46. Lastly, is there anything else that I need to know before we get wed-locked?
Ask this so that if there is something that you should know, the girl will tell you for sure. Also, this will help you eliminate unwanted surprises in the future. And if you have any such thing that the girl should know before marriage, you should also tell her that!
So, these are the 45 questions to ask a girl before marriage. These questions will help you to know the true personality of the girl, and you would in a position to make your decision. Remember that a marriage is based on truth. Be truthful to each other before you embark on the journey together to lead a happy married life.
Happy Wedding…. ☺ ☺